Why are grandparents so nice? Why do their grandkids love them so much? Its not because of the toys they bring. I believe its because theyre so completely and utterly positive with the little ones, providing a sense of support that isnt given, or perhaps cannot be given, by parents. Theyre 100% encouraging. You can do it! is one of their main messages, and let me tell you, this is one statement that never goes out of style, inside or outside of the family. If you want to be popular as a manager, a businessperson, or a professional, find a way to sound positive, all the time. Even if you have to break bad news, soften the blow by following a negative with a positive. Gee, Mike your sales were down this quarter, but Im sure well pick them up; I know you can do it! Youve heard the expression that says if you think you can do it, youre right; and if you dont think you can do it; youre also right! Where do we get the idea that we can or cant, to begin with? Largely, we internalize what others expect from us. If theyre discouraging, well feel discouraged. When they encourage, were encouraged; and were much more likely to succeed at anything. One more point: When you encourage others it comes back to you, in fact, instantaneously. Youll feel lighter, emotionally, uplifted, because you did something positive. I suppose that taps into another idea youve heard: Its impossible to help others without helping ourselves, at the sale time! |
